Resources
Betrayed Spouses
The Arise Program
Christian Books/Devotionals
Forgiving What You Can’t Forget
Seeing Beautiful Again
Good Boundaries & Goodbyes
Betrayal Education Books
The Aftermath of Betrayal
The Great Sex Rescue
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can--and Should--be Saved
The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal
Unleashing Your Power: Moving Through the Trauma of Partner Betrayal
Relationship Repair After Betrayal
Help Her Heal: An Empathy Workbook for Sex Addicts to Help their Partners Heal
Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back
Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection That Stands the Test of Time
Video: "Are You On the Coaster?" Reframing the power struggle post-discovery
Video: Brené Brown on Empathy
Staring at Dirt: Finding Faith in the Absence of Proof
Many times I’ve stared up at the sky, wondering how I would get through the next moment, and always hearing the whispers of the Holy Spirit about the choice I had going forward. That I was free. I could leave. I could decide that this was enough, and that I don’t trust God anymore. And many, many times I’ve deeply considered it.
Did you miss the signs?
“How could I not have known?”
“I’m so stupid!”
“Why was I so blind?”
You won’t heal if you don’t feel safe.
Why wont you heal if you don’t feel safe?
The same reason you can’t fall asleep if you hear a tiger growling somewhere in the darkness.
What is Safety?
If you’ve ever asked me the question “so...what do I do now?” while facing the stormy waters of partner betrayal, you will hear me go off about safety.