Introducing

The Arise Program

If you are the partner of someone struggling with a sex or porn addiction,

It can feel like you're constantly being pulled under by unpredictable ocean waves—waves that few can see, and even fewer can truly understand.

Do you recognize yourself in this?
 

"I threw up. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, and cried constantly"

"I felt horror, anger, rage, terror, fury at God."

"I loved my husband and wanted his comfort, yet he was the source of my searing pain. "

"I frequently had disturbing dreams and nightmares."

"I couldn't read: nothing made sense. I totally lost my ability to concentrate.

"I've had this reaction before to someone's death."

"It's like someone ransacking my house and I was left with all the pieces"

"I'm cycling through emotions like crazy. This is worse than when my mother was killed in a car accident."

 "I have never felt so betrayed in my entire life."

"It was devastating; traumatic"

 - Partners Descriptions of their Betrayal Experiences from 'Your Sexually Addicted Spouse'
Barbara Steffens, PhD, LPCC and Marsha Means, MA

Partner Betrayal Trauma

If so, I want you to know, there is nothing wrong with you.

All of the feelings, experiences, sensations, memory loss, bad dreams, anger, emotional roller coasters, confusion isn't a character flaw. If you have a partner who is addicted to pornography, masturbation, affairs, prostitutes, massage parlours, and you are feeling this way, it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you, it means that - your body is actually working properly.

Your body is  responding to a situation that we were never supposed to experience.

So yes, you will feel absolutely, unbelievably - awful. 

And the awful has a name. It's called :

“Psychological trauma frequently accompanies natural disasters and catastrophic events, but it also accompanies personal and relational traumatic events, such as sexual abuse, rape, domestic violence, ongoing emotional and verbal abuse, long term extreme poverty and sexual betrayal.”

Such events cause intense phycological pain and overwhelm our ability to cope or to readily integrate the violations and emotions produced by these experiences. When traumatic events invade our lives, we feel shocked, rocked to our cores, and no longer safe in our world."

-'Your Sexually Addicted Spouse'
Barbara Steffens, PhD, LPCC and Marsha Means, MA

Why Trauma?

We were created by God to feel safe, secure, loved and protected. That is how we were made. That is how we function best. When we grow attached to people, feel safe with them, and then are betrayed by them, and sometimes abused by them, it creates a disconnect to the way we were created. 

This is why partner betrayal can be, and often is - traumatic. 

And because relational trauma can, and often does develop as result of feeling deeply relationally unsafe, it makes sense that healing from such trauma is fundamentally about experiencing relational safety...

Imagine if...

  • You had somewhere safe to go when you are feeling alone. Somewhere to be held, loved, reminded of God's love and protection over you. 

  • You felt secure in a community of women who loved you, supported you, and held you up in your darkest moments.

  • You had a clear path to healing and rebuilding your life after betrayal?

  • You had a comprehensive program tailored for you, with 1:1 support, optional couples support and access to a community of Christian Women to support you?

  • You had access to a full suite of resources, including informational videos, group support, and group chats, all designed to help YOU.

  • You could connect with other women who truly understand your journey and a coach who was committed to supporting you every step of the way?

What if it there was a program made especially for YOU - No more sifting through podcasts, flipping through overwhelming books with nowhere to process the information, No more hurtful professionals or church leaders asking how you contributed to your husbands affair or addiction, or offering advice that is harmful. 

Arise Program Members

  • Caslyn you go over and above to make me feel safe. I never hesitated to say what l wanted. I knew there would be no judgement and you would be honest.

    Client Review 2024

  • I felt so heard, cared for and supported. What an amazing journey and resource. No doubt God brought this in my life. Honestly do not no where I would be without this group of amazing women and amazing coach!

    Client Review 2024

  • [Having a] group gave me an anchor , helping to feel heard, loved and accepted , but also helping me stay close to Christ and feel Christ’s love in each of these women.

    Client Review 2024

  • Caslyn brings a genuine care, passion and love to her coaching. I felt God’s love through Caslyn. I felt her commitment to each of our situations. She is responsive and optimistic. In the darkest time of my crisis it was hard to relate to the beautiful metaphors Caslyn so vividly shares. Playfulness like a child in a garden, flowers thriving in the way God intended…..but as I began to heal and learn what it is to be safe, heard and set boundaries , I could and can see a life with joy….playfulness and security like a child. I see God working through Caslyn, I am so grateful.

    Client Review 2024

What is Arise?

The Arise Program is a 17 week  program designed specifically for Christian women who are navigating the pain of having a partner who has had multiple affairs and/or addicted to sex/porn.

It combines the latest clinical techniques with faith-based support, offering a holistic approach to help you regain your peace, rebuild trust within yourself, and restore your life with grace and strength.

It is rooted in the idea that you don’t need to be taught how to swim when you are drowning. You need a life raft. You need people to pull you up into their boat and sit with you. Listen to you, see you, and hear your pain. Arise is designed to be a place for you to heal, surrounded by women who understand, and have your back.

If you are interested in Arise, let’s chat!

What’s included in the Arise Program?

  • Weekly Group Zoom Calls

    Every Wednesday Evening, there is a group call to check in, get support and build community. Everyone who joins the Arise program has access to the community of other women who are going through the program. Get to know one another through the group chat, facebook page and weekly  group!

    One of the most surprising thing new members say, is how much laughter there is in these group. The bond of strong women coming together is like no other. It’s been said “If you don’t laugh, you’ll cry.” many times. And although there are tears, there is also the joy of being together, and feeling seen.

  • Couples Coaching (optional)

    Relational repair is to the marriage as addiction recovery is to the addict. That’s why I’ve included one couples session, which you can schedule anytime during the Arise program. This session is focused on aligning with your partner about what you're learning, your boundaries, safety plan, and how you want to be supported. It’s not for addressing unrelated marital conflicts or your partner's needs—this session is solely about ensuring you receive the support you need as you navigate this program.

  • Monthly Arise Workshop/Webinar

    Each month, join me or a special guest for a live workshop or webinar designed to help you heal, grow, and navigate the complex layers of betrayal trauma. These sessions will focus on essential topics such as: Understanding Gaslighting,
    Nurturing Your Health, Regulation Techniques, Relational Repair, Rebuilding Trust and more!

    Every workshop is crafted to provide you with practical tools, compassionate guidance, and spiritual encouragement to support your healing journey. Whether you are just beginning to process betrayal or further along the path, these sessions will offer valuable insights to strengthen your heart and mind.

  • 3 Individual Sessions

    The Arise program is 17 weeks long, and includes 2 individual coaching sessions that are 50 minutes each.

    PLUS It includes an 80-minute planning session where I walk you through the program in detail, get you set up, and go over the pre-program workbook. This workbook is specifically designed for me to get to know you—your goals, intentions, and challenges—so I can tailor the program to meet your unique needs.

    If you find that you need more one on one support, you will receive discounted rates on individual sessions and couples sessions.

  • 4 Modules & 28 Lesson Videos

    The Arise program is built to gently guide you through the healing process after betrayal, offering you hope, clarity, and practical steps to rebuild your sense of safety, trust, and identity. Each module is designed to meet you where you are – emotionally, spiritually, and physically – while providing tools, knowledge, and faith-based encouragement to support your growth.

  • 200 Page Workbook, Trauma Journal & Anchor Plan

    Your choice of digital or hard copy! For each of the 25 (and counting) lessons, you'll find a dedicated page or two in your Arise workbook designed to help you organize, absorb, and process the content from the video lessons.

    This ensures that you can fully engage with the material and apply it to your healing journey effectively.

    Trauma Journal : For the first 40 days of the program, monitor your symptoms with the Arise Journal. Designed to help you organize your thoughts, sleep patterns, trauma symptoms, food and water consumption and keep you in scripture daily.

    Anchor Plan : Once you are finished the program, you will have a chance to organize everything you’ve learnt into one small (but beautiful) book. You can have easy access to organize your coping strategies, safety plan, boundaries, notes, thoughts and prayers going forward.

  • Resources for days

    I want the women in this program to feel supported and wrapped in resources, so the program comes fully loaded with an Arise daily journal, breath as prayer devotional, personalized welcome gift, Spotify playlist full of related songs, recommended podcasts, youtube playlist and an Amazon book list for you as well as your partner. 

Are you ready?

If you are ready to lean into the important work of healing, schedule your free call now! I’ll walk you through every single step.

About me!

Hey! I'm Caslyn. I am a Certified Addictions Recovery Coach! I specialize in Sexual Addiction Recovery, and work with Christian Women and couples all over North America to navigate and heal from partner sexual betrayal.

After more than a decade of struggling with sexual addiction, I found recovery and healing and sought out how I could help other women overcome the endless struggles and pain that come from being a Catholic woman struggling with sexual addiction. However, while in training, I stumbled across the Association of Partners of Sex Addict Specialist and my eyes were opened to the world of betrayal due to sexual addiction. The pain and grief of my betrayed clients took hold of my heart, and I knew - these women have my heart. Though I am not someone who has been betrayed through sexual addiction, I am someone who has both experienced trauma, and in my own addiction has hurt, betrayed and let down many people very deeply. It was obvious that the support for the betrayed was nowhere near what it is for the addicted. I believe God has called me into this work not to know exactly my clients experience, but to step down into the dark pit of betrayal with them, and listen to their hearts, their situation, and their wounds. To know the darkness of the one who betrayed them, and, in couples work, guide the betraying partner towards the hard work of empathy and recovery.

I am certified through the International Association of Professional Recovery Coaches as a certified recovery coach, and in the process of obtaining my Associate Certified Coach (ACC) credential through the International Coaching Federation.

I have completed the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model Training (MPTM) through The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists and am ERCEM Trained (Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model), as well as a Help.Her.Heal Specialist. 

I am fiercely dedicated to the people I support, enthusiastic about recovery and healing, and love to bring light into the darkness with a touch of (hopefully) well timed humour.

I live in the rainy Fraser Valley of British Columbia and am completely in love with my Catholic faith, morning coffee, my husband and my two unhinged children.

In that order.